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Use this two-letter word

"Millions saw the apple fall, but Newton was the one who asked why." - Bernard Baruch

I want to give you a great tool in your tool belt to help you as you press on towards the fresh air of freedom. This tool is in the form of a single word. And the word only has two letters (and no vowels!). Any guesses? I'll tell you in a second. But first: think about when you are in that moment when the intense desire to watch porn hits you. Maybe you are alone, you have some time, and you are flooded with that urge. When this happens, what is your first response? Do you think, "Oh no, here it is again. Argh!" Or, "Okay, what should I do? How can I resist this time?" Do you feel a battle start to take place inside you? It's in this moment that I want to invite you to interrupt that internal struggle with a two-letter word. What is the word, you ask? Hm. Yep, you read that right: Hm. Why use this word? Well, let me ask you, when do you typically use the word, "Hm"? Maybe when you are observing something with interest? Or when you are curious about something (Hm, is "hm" technically a word?). It's a word we use when we're noticing. Not making a judgment or trying to change it necessarily. Just...simply noticing. When you respond to an intense urge with curiosity, awareness, a turning towards rather than resisting, it creates the space needed for that feeling to vent, and ultimately leave. It's the best way I've found to "process" that feeling. It was THE key that led me to finally experiencing freedom. So make a plan in advance. Be ready for the next time you feel the desire to watch porn. Decide ahead of time. When the urge arises, respond with the word, "Hm..." Using this small but mighty word, you can't help but have an attitude of curiosity, of noticing, of acknowledging. And this will help pave your path to true, lasting freedom. Onward, Dan

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