There is a place, a specific moment, where progress towards your freedom is ultimately achieved. And it may not be where you think.
Maybe you want to stop watching porn. Maybe it's a habit you've turned to for a while, and you're more than ready to be done with it. You want to be free.
So how is freedom achieved?
Maybe you do some searching and you find a few "solutions":
Set up the filters on your devices
Get an accountability partner
Meet with a counselor that specializes in this area
Join a group that meets to discuss this specific topic
These are all very beneficial things. But having these things in place does not equal freedom. I can personally attest to that.
This is not where freedom is ultimately determined.
Here's the thing: You can take all these positive and helpful actions, but you will still come face to face with that intense desire for porn.
You will still experience many more instances (maybe hundreds or thousands more) when that craving floods you.
Those moments when you experience that powerful urge to watch porn, that is where freedom is ultimately achieved.
This is the front line.
On your journey to freedom, that moment of desire is your frontier.
Everything else you do to try and be free, like the actions we looked at above, are preparatory. They are steps taken on the "back end."
Your road to freedom leads up to the next instance that you are flooded with the urge to watch porn, and how you handle that feeling. This is where your life bumps up against your progress. It's where the rubber meets the road.
Let that sink in for a moment. The next moment of temptation is actually where your freedom starts to occur. It's where freedom happens. It's your doorway to progress.
There are two game-changers to take from this:
1. The next time you feel that desire is a moment of opportunity, not something to be feared or dreaded.
It's a moment to prepare for and be ready for, and to look forward to as an opportunity to make real progress towards freedom. It's a chance to take a step forward.
I challenge you to start seeing that next moment of desire as an incredible, unprecedented window of opportunity to move towards freedom.
2. To capitalize on this opportunity when it arises, you must have an effective plan in place.
The next time you are flooded with that blazing desire to watch porn, it can either be just another instance of struggle and internal conflict, or it can be transformed into your stepping stone towards freedom.
The one thing that will determine this is having a clear, effective strategy in place, ready to implement at a moment's notice.
And not just any plan, but one that helps you effectively process the feeling you experience.
Ask yourself this question: Have you had a clear, well-defined plan for the front line of this struggle? If so, what was it, and did it lead you to a place of lasting freedom? Did it give you a winning track record?
This is the key, the missing piece that most guys don't have.
Here's the good news: I've got you covered there. I can give you the key you've been missing.
For the freedom frontier, take the Freedom P.A.T.H.
The P.A.T.H. Plan is your go-to for the frontline. The next time you are flooded with the burning surge of desire to watch porn, that's the indicator to implement the P.A.T.H. Plan to effectively process that desire, and turn it into a step towards freedom.
The P.A.T.H. Plan is yours for free here: newpaths.me/plan
Next week we're going to look at what happens to your brain in that moment of desire, and why it's essential to have your plan ready to use in advance.
Journeying with you,
Dan