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A new skill

"I don't belong on this wall."

That's what I was saying to myself a few weeks ago as I was struggling to climb a wall at an indoor climbing gym. A friend had invited me to go climbing, and on my first few attempts I felt like I was blundering my way up the wall. I knew I was making mistakes. I knew I wasn't doing it the right way. I was climbing with terrible form. I was expending way too much energy. It was discouraging. I had the thought that I just shouldn't be doing this. I'll never figure it out. Thankfully, I didn't give up. I held onto the belief that if I kept at it, I would get better. It would become easier. If I continued to practice, it would feel more natural. Just like any skill. Not surprisingly, that's exactly what's been happening. I have been consistent in going to the climbing gym a few times a week, working hard and continuing to practice. I am seeing improvement and progress already, and it's a very exciting and satisfying feeling. Because of that excited feeling, I'm enjoying it more. And I'm even more committed to sticking with it. Why am I telling you this? Because this is exactly what it's like when you start practicing the P.A.T.H. Plan. Just like learning any new exercise or skill, it feels weird at first. It seems clunky. You begin to think that something is wrong with you or with the exercise. You don't see results right away. You question if you should even keep trying. These are the exact thoughts I had. And they are absolutely normal. Expect these thoughts to come. But then remind yourself that with any new skill, if you keep at it, you will get better. You will see results. You will see progress. Why is this so important to remember? Because I believe implementing this strategy and learning this skill can help you as it helped me. This was THE strategy that led me to the fresh air of freedom that I experience today. And I know that it can be for you too. You CAN be free from porn. Here are three simple things I want you to walk away with: 1. The next time you feel the urge to watch porn, follow the steps of the P.A.T.H. Plan. 2. Expect it to feel clunky at first. This is normal. Don't give up. 3. Keep at it. If you stick with it, you will get better. And you will start seeing exciting results. Journeying with you, Dan

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