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The 12-month minute

The other day, my wife and I were talking to our girls (ages 8 and 2) about how fast they are growing, and how fast time flies.

Yes, it does. Sometimes one year ago seems like only a few weeks ago. And 12 months from now will be here before we know it. That's good news, in a way. 12 months can pass so quickly. But with intentionality, a lot of positive change can happen during that period of time. We can drift along, doing things as we've always done them (which is what our brain prefers), or we can choose the direction we want to go. And with practice and persistence, before we know it 12 months have passed and we're in a completely different and better place. Take a minute right now, and think about yourself and your life 12 months ago. Replay a typical day from April 2021. Think about where you were in relation to your work. Your family. Your mornings. Your evenings. Your habits. Your friendships. Also, where were you in your relationship with porn 12 months ago? Think about how often you consumed it. How did you feel after you viewed it? When would you typically consume it? Would you say it is a bigger struggle today than it was 12 months ago? Do you feel that you have more or less freedom today? What differences or similarities do you notice today versus 12 months ago? Now the fun part. Spend one minute thinking about 12 months from now. In April of 2023, how you would like to be? How would you like to feel? What's your experience of life? Think about things like your work, how you feel when you wake up in the morning, your relationships, your habits, your hobbies. And especially for our purposes, think about your relationship with porn in April 2023. How would you like that to be? Can you imagine yourself living in true freedom? Think about living life in 12 months without shame or guilt or fear. Can you imagine this? Yes, the urge to watch porn will still arise from time to time, but you've learned the skill of how to handle that urge in an effective way. You've built that muscle incredibly well. You're not phased one bit when that urge arises. You're aware of it, you see it, you acknowledge it. And you allow to be there with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment and condemnation. You feel at peace about it, you even thank it. Can you imagine yourself living in this type of freedom 12 months from now? Try. Because this reality is absolutely within your reach. The two scenarios above describe me exactly. In May of 2020, I was still struggling. It was so hard to not give in to the urge anytime it arose. By May of 2021, I had experienced unprecedented victories and was living in the highest level of freedom I had ever experienced. All because I finally found the missing piece: the P.A.T.H. Plan. I'm not any more special than you. I'm not stronger than you. I'm not smarter than you. So, if it's possible for me, it's absolutely possible for you. Keep that vision, that reality in front of you as you journey forward to the amazing freedom that awaits you. Next step, Dan

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